Recently, I went into a therapeutic retreat to learn about equine-facilitated psychotherapy. During the event, our Chief Executive, Sarah, talked about how animals will "find their place". Coincidentally, while he spoke, a horse with our line of sight began to rub it on the back in a position, then on a tree. Sarah told us that the horse had found its point and woke it up. It was safe and gave comfort and relief.
This has made me think about my animals. We have two beagles. Tatum Marie, our 9-year-old, lived with us from the age of 6 weeks without a history of injury. The other, Chandler Wayne, is a rescue of 14 months and came from a puppy among 40 other dogs.
What is your "Spot"?
I know exactly where and how to scratch Tatum Marie to thank her, even with the content. I also know her favorite place to lie down and relax. However, with Chandler Wayne, the spot has not yet been found. Sometimes, it's like the whole body of being the point that wants to be rubbed and petted – it's not able to get enough. Other times, he is hiding under the bed and afraid to touch him. The trauma that he lived in his youthful life keeps him from enjoying the constant security of the presence and touch of another, so the isolation under the bed becomes his point.
Sarah spoke about Thira, a battered mashtagan she had gained 10 years ago. From an environmental point of view, the arena is its point – its safe place. Sarah continues to work with the masang, helping her to see her being surrounded by security as she teaches, cares and cares for her. We respect Thera and understand without the tongue how to recognize its limits so that it can begin to feel safe and comfortable.
The importance of finding your point
Helping customers find their way is the key to creating a space for safety and healing during therapy. I'm not talking about scratching their forehead. we want to help them find their place environmentally and naturally in terms of how safe they feel that they share their history, set limits and experience comfort and rehabilitation.
My office is a arena. My job as a therapist is to create a safe boat on which to work and to heal. Trust is of prime importance. When a client enters the office, I am humbled by his willingness to enter the arena. When I see customers who struggle to find their point, I know that I have an important and sacred role in assisting in this process.
Helping customers find their way is the key to creating a space for safety and healing during therapy.For traumatized clients, finding their point can be difficult. Living in a constant state of over-reliance, learning to live in the present, feeling safe, trusting yourself and others, can be challenging.
When trust is destroyed in a relationship, the desire and the ability to share one's position with a partner may take time as trust has to be healed and restored.
How to help customers find their point in treatment
Encouraging customers to find their point is to keep room for them and not to control the pace. It provides security by allowing them to have a voice when it comes to adjusting boundaries and encouraging hearing the voice. The security modeling provided in the office room allows the patient to start recognizing and looking for security outside the office and finding the rest of his spots in the world.
And what about my point? Personal, professional, social, relationships? I know where this is? Can I have more than one point? Suddenly do my mark? For me, all these questions relate to my self-care making sure that I have room for myself and set clear limits on what is right and is not ok all the world's arenas.
Watching Thera to find her point and scratch it in the arena was a moment of unparalleled joy for me. The same is true when I experience a customer having the courage to appear in my office, be brave and share their story. And if I'm lucky enough, I have the privilege of assuring them that they find their place and scratch it.
If you are struggling to "find your point" in the world, a therapist can support you in the process.
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