Why are the children? Normal, Behavioral and Pathological in children

Young boy standing on step stool to steal cookies from kitchen cabinetThe lie is developmentally normal for children of all ages, even when a child is often found. Lying allows children to experience the boundaries between imagination and reality, to be protected from the effects of their actions and to better understand other people's thinking.

Some parents worry that their children may become pathological or compulsive liars. However, lie rarely causes concern to children. Parents worried about their child's lie should know that the lie is developmentally normal and may even be a sign that a child hits appropriate developmental milestones.

However, some lies may signal a more profound problem, such as a mental health problem or a tendency to manipulate others. Parents worried about their child's lie should seek help from a therapist or pediatrician. An expert who has experience in working with children can help parents understand if the lie is appropriate for age or indicative of a possible problem.

Pathological vs. Compulsive Lying

Neither pathological nor compulsive hallucinations are mental health diagnoses. Their existence remains controversial among many mental health clinics. Some clinicians argue that there is no such thing as pathological or compulsive lie. Others claim that these behaviors appear only as part of another diagnosis or as the product of fear, trauma and other incentives.

Those who distinguish between pathological and obsessive existence, argue that the difference is an intention. Pathological liars may be without clear reason, seemingly without programming or motivation. For example, a child can claim that something happened when it was not clear, even when there is no reason – such as fear or prudent thinking – to do so.

Forced liars can use lies to get things they want or need or to escape punishment. This type of lie is much more common among children and is typically developmental at many ages. For example, a child can say he does not eat cake slice, even when his mouth is covered with crumbs. Or they could tell a story about a gift they never received because they wanted someone to give them the present.

Parents should be aware that children are almost always there for some reason. Speech determination is more important than stigmatization or punishment of lying. Punishments of lies can even encourage children to be more in the hope that they will not be caught next time.

Symptoms of Compulsive Violence in Children

Parents should be aware that children are almost always there for some reason. Speech determination is more important than stigmatization or punishment of lying. Punishments of lies can even encourage children to be more in the hope that they will not be caught next time.

Some warning signs that hide a child may be a problem, and not just typical behavioral behaviors include:

  • Often lying without apparent reason
  • The experience of other personality problems, such as intense anger, lack of worry about others' feelings or extreme mood swings. Sometimes compulsive hallucinations coexist with personality disorders.
  • Lying to manipulate or control others
  • They lie longer than their peers
  • He continues to say even when he intervenes in relationships
  • A pattern of lies that gets steadily worse

Even when a child presents these symptoms, the lie may be developmentally normal. It often removes itself without treatment or intervention. Many studies have also shown that lie can be a sign of empathy and proper social development.

The lie tends to peak between the ages of 3 to 8. The child's lies then become more sophisticated and focus on enhancing self-esteem and avoiding punishment.

Why is my child?

Children find themselves on a wide variety of typical developmental reasons. These include:

  • Developing a theory of mind. Theory of the mind is the ability to predict what another person thinks or feels and to understand that the beliefs and feelings of other people are different from their own. The theory of the mind usually begins to develop around the elderly when children are also lying more often. One study also found that educating a child to develop a theory of mind can force them to lie.
  • A growing sense of morality. Children begin to find themselves more as the sense of right and wrong grows. This is because they are better able to predict which behaviors can cause them problems.
  • To avoid punishment. Children who are afraid of punishment may find themselves out of punishment. Because of this, extreme punishments, including fake ones, can actually promote falsehoods.
  • Experimentation and creativity. As children gain the ability to lie, they may be to test their new ability.
  • To enhance self-esteem. Children can be with their colleagues to gain their respect and love. or, they may be at the parents because they need love and attention.
  • Because they do not know they lie. Sometimes what parents think is a lie is in fact a child who remembers something wrong. Very young children may not understand the difference between a lie and the truth or realize that adults do not want to lie.

Children may also find themselves for reasons that indicate an underlying mental health issue. These include:

  • Trauma and abuse. Abused or injured children may be in a position to overcome abuse, talk about their experiences, or be afraid to tell the truth to adults.
  • Worry. Children with stress-related diagnoses may find themselves worried about the consequences of the word of truth.
  • Low self-esteem. Some children find themselves worried that people will not like it if they know the truth.
  • Personality disorders. Very rarely, children with personality disorders such as marginal personality or antisocial personality may be part of their diagnosis.
  • Other mental health issues. Various other mental health diagnoses can cause children to be. For example, a bipolar child can behave in ways he regrets during a manic episode, then he lied about behavior.

Dealing with the compulsive child

Lying can be frustrating for parents, even when they are naturally developing. A therapist can help parents determine whether the lie is typical of age or the sign of a more serious problem.

Family therapy can help parents and children communicate better. Parents can learn strategies that reduce the desire and motivation of the child to lie. For example, instead of asking a child if they have broken the rules when the data indicate they have, a parent can just talk about the broken rule. If a child is lying because he feels punishment, healing can help a parent and a child move beyond fear and create fair and consistent family rules.

When a child's lie causes problems for the child or the family, individual counseling can support the child and help them find themselves less. A therapist can work with the child to relax anxiety and depression, enhance self-esteem and develop a strong sense of self. Children with a trauma history may need help to process and talk about the trauma. Children with personality disorders can benefit from specific therapeutic techniques such as dialectical behavioral therapy for marginal personality.

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