Your colleagues and your supervisors can imagine you as an office conversation.
When you take the floor at a meeting, do you notice that people are watching their watch or their phones?
When you run over the water cooler, are you struggling before your colleagues end their suggestions?
Do you usually go to the tangential when you say a story?
People are shivering and say "uh huh" a lot when you talk?
Do you notice that people at work prefer to communicate with you via email?
You may be a preserver.
Most people who are talking too much do not realize they are doing it, says Annie Stevens, ClearRock's chief executive officer, a leading development company and an executive management company. Regardless of whether it is fueled by insecurity or over-confidence, this quality can be fatal to someone's careers – especially these days.
How he speaks too much can hurt you
With 67% of people working "a lot more" than five years ago, according to a survey by Manpower Staff, employees have literally less patience for distractions. "No one has time to sit for an hour to get an answer to a question," says Stevens. Your peers and bosses may start avoiding you if they take up enough time.
Additionally, if you can not get to the point in a meeting, your boss may be wondering about your ability to communicate with higher UPS or customers. Knitting an interview could shade the points you are trying to make and block your chances of getting the job done.
Women seem to pay a higher price to be wild. A Yale University study found that women of the highest level who speak most at work are considered less capable than men. According to chief researcher Victoria Brescoll, people tend to want to reward males who are frightening either by recruiting or having the most responsibility, while females that speak a lot are considered authoritarian and noisy.
For Any but the ability to exchange information clearly and concisely is an asset, Stevens says. In a world where large ideas can be transferred to less than 140 characters, there is less tolerance for a verbal opus.
Stevens' motto: "Be short, be brilliant, leave."
Keep from being considered as Blabbermouth
Become conscious. Watch for the red flags listed above. Their surest sign that you are talking too much is that you are talking about someone who is talking. "It can be a deadly mistake if it happens during a job interview, a career slayer, if it happens often with your boss, and will alienate colleagues if you interrupt repeatedly and experiment the conversation," said Stevens.
Try to pay attention – at least for a few days – to the reactions of other people when you talk. Do your colleagues, for example, participate in the divergence when you overlook the issue? You're probably clear.
Pay attention to the body language. You are likely to lose your listener if you look at a clock or a computer, stop contacting the eyes or no longer take notes. "Wrap as fast as you can," says Stevens.
You have a script. There are times when you need to talk about yourself. Expand and memorize a 90-second verbal response so you can get a summary when interviews or network contacts say "Tell me about yourself."
Similarly, if you give a speech or a presentation, describe some basic points before the meeting and insist on them. Watch for those signs that have been noted above as signs that you have to go back on track.
The details are important for telling stories, but make sure you understand the basics. "The annoying companion of excessive speech is exaggerated, as in revealing too many, very personal, irrelevant or inappropriate details," says Stevens.
Practical active listening. Do not just lie down in perimeter waiting to talk from your turn. Pay special attention to what is being discussed and ask for related follow-up questions.
The emergence of listening skills can be just as important as indicating how much you can talk about, says Stevens. "If the person you talk to thinks you are interested in what they say, he or she will think positively about you."
This article first appeared on Money.com