Magazines were wrong. Sure, the promise of "abs-pack abs" can be an incentive at the airport booth. But once your flight is delayed, it's easy to forget. Because of stress, frustration and … a Smashburger is in a convenient position. (Like every day, really.) There They are a solution, though. If you are willing to ask – and answer – some hard questions, you can discover a much deeper purpose for change. One that will ignite the passion and will lead you to get the results you want-no matter how bad your airline is screwing.
I could already see the pain in Michelle's eyes as we sat down to talk.
"What do you hope to succeed with my lease?" I asked.
Michelle raised his hand. "I just want to lose weight and come back".
After 10 years as a fitness coach, I knew there was more to the story. There is always.
"Have you always been overweight?" I asked.
He looked surprised at the personal question. I did not break out.
After a while, Michelle told me she was struggling for more than 15 years. Now he has prediabetes.
"How makes you feel?" I asked.
Unfortunately, she went back but then said: "I'm afraid. My mother was overweight and had diabetes, and I feel like I follow her footsteps."
At this point, Michelle stopped to hold back. the tears rushed her cheeks.
"Everything hit me two weeks ago, my daughter told me that I did not trust me to be alone with my granddaughter because I'm too exuberant and immobile to continue, I was so shattered.
Many of us are like Michelle: I am ashamed to talk about what it is Really it bothers us.
But since I started encouraging my clients to dig deep their pain, their results have soared.
Why; Because to achieve real, lasting change, many people have to face the emotional pain that makes them want this change.
Once they do, their real motivation is crystallized. And this is often much more powerful than any exercise plan or diet.
The challenge is to reveal it.
You never start from pain.
When it comes to goals, people usually talk about losing fat or moving better or becoming healthy. All the nice expectations, indeed.
But for many of us, these goals do not make much sense in our daily lives. They are more like health and physical clichés.
Our true motivations run much deeper than having a "bikini body" or "sleeve-busting guns" (such as advertisements and coverline promise).
This is the level of surface we believe we want.
Sure, these types of goals can inspire you to appear for six weeks of training and reduce alcohol for a while. But for most people, how much they do Really material? How easy is it to stop?
On the other hand … do you know what is most motivated?
Michelle who wants to be able to take care of her granddaughter so badly that months of new habits, tiring trainings, and saying no to the cupcakes in the breakroom room looked like the only selection. It was not just a fitness goal "they look better" – it was her burning passion.
Discovering why you really want to change gives you determination.
A wise man (okay, it was Tony Robbins) once said: "Change happens when the pain of residence is greater than the pain of change."
There is only one problem: Many of us never get to the root of what bothers us. We are not dealing with our pain because it is uncomfortable. As a result, we are much more likely to remain the same.
Find your pain … to hit your passion.
Sometimes the pain will be obvious: divorce, a terrifying diagnosis, the loss of a loved one. This kind of pain is easy to spot. It's right there in front of you, marking you down.
Other times, the pain may be thinner: It is hidden in a dark corner of the basement – always there, even if you do not know it all the time.
Maybe it comes from all the times you last chose as a child. Or from this "harmless" comment made by a loved one about your body … or about someone else's body (that looks like you).
These strokes of pain may not feel that it is detrimental at this time, but over time they gather strength and influence in your actions and self-esteem.
The result? The pain that is hidden can appear as follows:
- avoiding activities that are fun or good for you, such as going to a party or testing the new gym on the road
- feeling the fight of your heart when someone asks if you are okay
- reviewing again and again some deadly moments, using it as proof that you are the worst
- reducing the exciting opportunities because your inner voice says: "I can not do this in any way."
- living well in the 20s with the assumption that you will never find companionship … because you rejected the middle school teacher … and you assumed it was because the boys thought you were too big … so that must mean that men do not like you. (Is this TMI?)
All these examples show that there is a problem below the surface. Your pain discourages and keeps you back. If you can access the source of this emotional discomfort, you can use it to make a serious change.
Here's how to do this in three steps.
Step # 1: Find it true "Why."
Michelle wanted to lose weight, of course.
But most importantly, she wanted to trust her granddaughter. That was the same real reason for weight loss.
In the Precision Nutrition training method, we call this "find why".
Your "reason" is the reason behind the reason … behind the reason … behind the surface because you want to make a change in your life.
Finding your "why" is a shortcut to finding your pain.
Because often, the deeper reason you want to change your body or your habits ends up crappy.
For example, the shame of having won 30 pounds since he has children. ("Why does every other mom seem to have it all together?").
Or his weakness realizing that you can not even bend to get a pencil from the floor.
Or the regret that comes with admitting that you are not the type of active, inspired father you want to be.
These are the "whys" that change.
Do not give up the easy answer.
Achieving the "deeper speech" requires some introspection. An exercise called "5 Whys" can help in starting the process.
Here's how it works: Take the initial reason to want to make changes to your diet, workout routine, or lifestyle, and use it as a starting point.
Maybe you want to fit. Now ask yourself "why"?
(If you are a coach, you can go through this exercise with a client. Ask questions, but let them do most of the talk.)
Continue to ask – remember, it is called 5 Whys – until you feel that you have identified the real reason you want to change. The following illustration shows how this may look like.
Put the work.
Some people can define – and deal – with "why" quickly. For others, it takes a little more time and effort.
The practice of meditation and / or caution can help you gain access to unpleasant thoughts that you avoid or push. To get started, try this simple mind-body scan.
Find a quiet place. Take 5 minutes and find somewhere you can be without a vacation. This could be done just before the bed or immediately after awakening. Or in your office, resting on a park bench, or sitting in your parked car.
Observe natural sensations. Scan your body from the top of your head to your toes, part to the side. Note how you feel along the way. Do not judge or hurry to change anything.
Observe feelings and thoughts. After doing the "body scan", do the same exercise for your feelings and thoughts. Again, do not judge or try to understand it. Just notice.
Ask yourself 3 questions. Right now…
- What do I feel physically?
- What do I feel emotionally?
- What do I think?
It may be useful to note some notes after each session. (It's ok if you can not find the perfect words.)
Over time, you will notice emotions, thoughts and ideas consistently appearing. These can be important clues to revealing "why" you … and your pain.
Step # 2: Turn your pain into action.
Let's start with an example.
When Nivi Jaswal introduced precision diet coaching, he was overweight, he stressed, and had prediabetes. Through many concerns, Nivi revealed the pain she held back: a deep fear of not being good enough. If he could not do something perfect, he would not do it at all. And now what?
Do the hard thing.
Once you have set your pain, you have a box to experiment with an exercise PN calls "hard-easy" and "hard-to-difficult." (No, these are not typographical errors.)
Difficult-easy describes the things you do is hard, but you're still in your comfort zone: you're going to work everyday even if you hate your job, for example. Or stop carbohydrates again, even if you love pasta and cookies.
In the case of Nivi, the difficult-easy spending of countless hours of research on nutrition and routine exercises, seeking the "perfect" answer.
Difficult-difficult, however, are things that are really provocative – the things you avoid, because they seem overwhelming or even impossible. That's where you grow up.
Here are some examples:
- For a mother who always gives priority to her family's needs above her own, difficult-difficult can be charting two hours a week for favorite yoga lessons.
- For a business executive who chooses to work 60 hours a week, difficult can be difficult with friends twice a month (to begin).
- For Nivi, it hardly meant anything difficult making small changes in diet and lifestyle instead of going all-in. He was skeptical of this approach. It looked as though she was not working and she was afraid she would lose her time and effort. This made difficult the difficulty.
What are you afraid of? Difficult and easy tasks tend to disturb us. As you say "yes" even if you do not actually have any space on your plate for another job. Because he says "no" is very scary. The things that scare us are usually difficult.
What would you do if it were a Counter-Day? Your difficult and easy things are grinding, but you keep doing it anyway. Take a moment to look at: How does this work for you? What could you do is new, will it force you to grow up and put you on a new path? This is difficult-difficult.
Make a change at a time.
Once you locate your hard, difficult, chips away into it a little bit at a time. It may sound strange, but focusing on fewer can help you achieve more.
Choose a small, new habit.
Choose a habit that supports the progress toward body and health you want. Do something simple and reasonable that you think you can exercise everyday.
Suppose you want to get the accessory, but you are terrified of the gym because you feel like a stranger. Your difficult-hard hit in the gym on a regular basis.
Think about getting started with a habit that brings you closer to this goal, but it does not go all the way.
For your first habit, you can choose one of these options:
- foam rolling for a few minutes every morning
- walking 10 minutes on foot after dinner every night
- doing a 15-minute home workout twice a week
- go to the gym once a week, but just commit to an exercise you're comfortable with, and then leave
Perhaps one of these seems hard and hard, while another is hard but feasible. Go with the latter.
Your practical experience.
Make your new habit every day for at least two weeks. Some days, she will feel like a grueling climbing on Everest. Other days you may feel like you're flying. Eventually, more days will pass than Everest. So you know you're ready for the next step.
Build your habit.
Now you may be ready for four workouts at home per week, or two exercises when you go to the gym. Practice this new habit for another two weeks. Continue to repeat this cycle.
With this practice, your difficulty-difficult will become easier. As a result, you will have better control of your pain and fears … and better to change.
Step # 3: Share Your Pain.
I once had a client named Nadia. Her bondage was wrinkled and disappeared, and eventually stopped showing up for workouts – a story that each trainer knows very well.
Two years later, Nadia asked if we could meet. Over coffee, he explained that he had a learning disability, but he was ashamed to tell me before. During the training he felt lost and restless.
Armed with this new information, we figured out how to make it more comfortable this time. It began to appear four days a week and made tons of progress.
Talking with people about your pain can:
- Take part of the pain power away (you could realize that you are not a fault)
- previously hidden solutions seem more obvious
- open up new sources of support which were not available before
- to help you connection to people who are going through similar changes
- let others know it you are open for help, if it is able to provide it.
Start with the people you love.
Even when Michelle opened it, she still had no intention of telling her husband or daughter about her pain. At first, he did not even say that he had joined a gym.
After a few months, she had lost some weight, but her motivation began to decline and she was still angry at her daughter. I asked her what she thought could happen if she talked to her daughter about it.
"I was really hoping to avoid conflicts," he said.
What emerged was the opposite. Michelle's daughter and son were particularly encouraging. In fact, both are committed to making changes to the diet with to show their support. Michelle's wife wiped out even all the trash from their home.
Although there are no guarantees, most of the time, if you let yourself be vulnerable to the people you are near, They will rally to support you.
And that can make all the difference continue to make progress.
Give yourself the permission to take it slowly.
If you do not feel ready to reveal your pain to someone else, you can use the principles of STI to help you start sharing a little bit.
SIT is like vaccination against stress. The basic idea is to slowly feel comfortable … uncomfortable.
Think of it as follows: Exposing yourself to small amounts of pressure regularly – at levels that do not crash – trains you to handle much more difficult situations. Just like with exercise.
In this case, tell your story to pieces at your own pace until you begin to adapt to the stress of sharing. Or maybe uncover your pain in a magazine first, then with a stranger, and then with someone you are near.
Because you can do this only, but you do not have to.
If you feel a little uncomfortable, you are on the right track.
Remember, we find it difficult for some reason.
But if you are willing to dig deep, find your word and reveal the root of your pain, you can discover the purpose and passion that you are missing.
To move the past by believing that "you just want to get arranged" or "can not lose weight." And open yourself to the possibility that there is more to the story.
There you will find the motivations you really need … for the results you have Really I want.
If you are a coach or want to be …
Η εκμάθηση πώς να προπονούνται πελάτες, ασθενείς, φίλοι ή μέλη της οικογένειας μέσω της υγιεινής διατροφής και των αλλαγών στον τρόπο ζωής – βοηθώντας τους να ανακαλύψουν το πραγματικό τους κίνητρο – είναι μια τέχνη και μια επιστήμη.
Εάν θέλετε να μάθετε περισσότερα σχετικά με τα δύο, εξετάστε την Πιστοποίηση Ακρίβειας Διατροφής Ακριβείας 1. Η επόμενη ομάδα ξεκινά σύντομα.
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Αναπτύχθηκε πάνω από 15 χρόνια και αποδείχθηκε με περισσότερους από 100.000 πελάτες και ασθενείς, το πρόγραμμα σπουδών του επιπέδου 1 βρίσκεται μόνο ως αρχή στην επιστήμη της διατροφής and τέχνη προγύμνασης.
Είτε είστε ήδη στα μέσα της καριέρας, είτε απλά ξεκινάτε, η πιστοποίηση επιπέδου 1 είναι το εφαλτήριο για σας βαθύτερη κατανόηση της διατροφής, ο την εξουσία να προπονηθεί, και το την ικανότητα να μετατρέπετε αυτά που γνωρίζετε στα αποτελέσματα.
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Αν θέλετε να μάθετε περισσότερα, δημιουργήσαμε την ακόλουθη λίστα, η οποία σας δίνει δύο πλεονεκτήματα.
- Πληρώστε λιγότερο από όλους τους άλλους. Μας αρέσει να ανταμείβουμε ανθρώπους που είναι πρόθυμοι να ενισχύσουν τα διαπιστευτήρια τους και είναι έτοιμοι να δεσμευτούν για να πάρουν την εκπαίδευση που χρειάζονται. Έτσι προσφέρουμε έκπτωση μέχρι και 33% από τη γενική τιμή όταν εγγράφεστε στον κατάλογο προπώλησης.
- Εγγραφείτε 24 ώρες πριν από το ευρύ κοινό και αυξήστε τις πιθανότητές σας να πάρετε μια θέση. Ανοίγουμε μόνο το πρόγραμμα πιστοποίησης δύο φορές το χρόνο. Λόγω της μεγάλης ζήτησης, τα σημεία στο πρόγραμμα είναι περιορισμένα και έχουν ιστορικά εξαντληθεί σε λίγες ώρες. Όμως, όταν εγγραφείτε στον κατάλογο προπώλησης, θα σας δώσουμε την ευκαιρία να εγγραφείτε 24 ώρες πριν από οποιονδήποτε άλλο.
Εάν είστε έτοιμοι για ένα βαθύτερη κατανόηση της διατροφής, ο την εξουσία να προπονηθεί, και το την ικανότητα να μετατρέπετε αυτά που γνωρίζετε στα αποτελέσματα… αυτή είναι η ευκαιρία σας να δείτε τι μπορεί να κάνει το κορυφαίο σύστημα προπονητικής διατροφής στον κόσμο για εσάς.