Of all parental decisions made by the care of mums and dads, the decision on when a child starts school can have one of the greatest impacts. Once your child is identified with a peer group, it can be difficult to keep them back or skip them.
This decision of early childhood can determine many ways your child will see you in relation to others. Will they be the youngest in the classroom or the older one? How will they compare academically? Will they be the most or less physically mature? Even when a teen gets a driving license in relation to his friends depends in part on when they start school.
There are many important factors to consider when choosing the year in which your child starts kindergarten. This article will focus only on emotional and psychological factors. However, academic skills and the level of cognitive development is also important to keep in mind. An educational psychologist can help you assess whether your child is in front of or behind his or her age.
From four to six years, children may be very different in many areas of emotional and psychological development. Below is a list of questions that encourage parents to consider as they consider the important decision to start their child's academic career.
Can your child have access to ways to self-heal?
Children learn to relax at different ages. Teachers and nursery assistants are generally compassionate and participate in an upset child. However, they will have a class full of children to watch. Your child may have less relief from home or day.
Watch for signs that your child can do things to feel better when they are upset. Self-operations could include having a favorite game, asking for a hold, drawing or coloring, etc. If your child has little or no coping skills to self-heal, they may not be ready for an environment in the class.
Can your child wait?
In close relationship with self-relaxing is the ability to wait for the turn. In a classroom environment, a child is expected to:
- Lift up their hand and wait for them to call
- Stand in a line before going out
- Request permission to use the toilet
- Wait while someone else is talking.
If your child has difficulty waiting, he / she may face challenges in a classroom. Of course, part of childhood education helps children develop delayed satisfaction skills. However, it is often important for a young child to have some of these skills before kindergarten.
Can your child turn around?
Very young children (1 to 4) do parallel play, which consists of sitting or standing near other children. However, they essentially play on their own with their own agenda and their own rules. As children grow up, they learn strategies like "Eenie meenie miny mo" or setting a timer to keep the turns straight.
A kindergarten will probably have to share games, take turns in a game, and interact in the way and way. These abilities may be necessary for your child to make the most of a kindergarten experience.
Does your child have vocabulary for his feelings?
Your child should be able to inform the responsible adult if he / she feels sad, sleepy, afraid, etc. If your child only explains how he feels by saying what happened (ie "He will not play with me" and not "I'm sad" I feel it is getting away "), it will be much harder for a teacher to help them with understanding and compassion.
Listen to how your child expresses their feelings. If they only express their feelings as blame, stories, defenses or explanations, you may want to use more words around your child. When you talk about your own feelings, you can use words like "worried," "proud," "frustrated," "miserable," etc. You do not have to focus on explanations and stories about Why you feel some way. You just need to use an exact word to immediately describe how you feel.
Can your child sit down and follow simple instructions?
If your child can sit at the table and eat dinner with the family, he / she may be able to sit down in an office and follow what he / she asks a teacher to do. If your child can follow your instructions to play games or make boats, he may be able to do the same at school.
Does your child have the ability to cope with separation anxiety?
The most common complaint I hear from the parents of nursery school children is that their child shouts when their parents leave at school. The anxiety of separation is normal, especially:
- If there is a brother in the house. Your child can imagine that your brother has all of himself while being stuck in school. Planning one-on-one time with a nursery child can ensure that they also have quality time with each parent.
- If your child has little chance of getting away from his parents. It can help you leave your child with a babysitter or relative to use them to separate from parents during class hours. You may try to hide a surprise and let the child know only that the caregiver can tell him where he is after sex.
- If there are conflicts in the home that already create some underlying concern. If stress is an important issue, family counseling can be helpful.
Can your child tell you about their adventures?
It is important for most parents to feel comfortable that their child can reliably convey what happened when they were separate. Listen to what your child is saying about visits to grandparents, their time in kindergarten or what they did in a group of games.
It is not only important that a child can explain to a parent what they were enthusiastic about at school, but also indicate any indications of intimidation or teacher that they can neglect. A young child will not be able to give details that describe each minute of the school day, but should be able to discuss the events that are most important to them.
Finally, do you think your child is ready for a school environment?
Pay attention to how your child interacts with their elderly. Look at how they handle conflicts or frustration. Be honest with yourself about what you know about your child that may not be immediately visible to teachers.
Trust your intuition. You know your child from his birth. You've seen them grow in many developmental stages. Use this unique information to help make important decisions about when your child starts school.
If you are still unsure, you can read about the development rules for your child's age. You can talk to a pediatrician about your concerns.
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