Existing good practices for people with more role power

The young doctor and the old man have a simple conversation on the couch.At its most basic, power is the ability to work or influence. Martin Luther King defined power as your ability to achieve a goal. Your "personal power" is your generative right. No one gave it to you. Transferred from state to state. It is part of your personality and it is connected to your soul. Develop and develop your life throughout understanding and improving your impact on others.

Leaders, employers, therapists, doctors, lawyers, police officers, teachers, clergy, supervisors … are examples of positions that give "role power". Role power is an add-on to your personal power. I think about wearing a scarf when you go to work or play any professional or social role. The scarf symbolizes the power of your extra role. It is a wise practice to remove your scarf when you return to your personal life. Unfortunately, other people may still be aware of your role and the particular level of power that happens, even when you are back in your personal life one weekend with your family.

The power difference created when you have role power can be quite subtle or very intense and can cause a number of complex relational dynamics. One of these dynamics may include a fascinating shadow that draws on the use of power in self-serving ways.

Here are some ways to reduce the potential for abuse of role power and cultivate ways to use it more properly and effectively.

1. Have the important powers you have now, both personal and role power.

Many people make the mistake of not owning their power because they are afraid of causing harm. Downgrading your power is also a form of abuse of power. Find the "yes" so that you can own and use the power of your role well. Keep reflecting on your impact and automatically correcting as needed.

Downgrading your power is also a form of abuse of power. Find the "yes" so that you can own and use the power of your role well.

2. Stand in your power while remaining in your heart.

Aim to use your power with love.

Martin Luther King said: "We need to do this right thing. What is needed is the realization that power without love is reckless and abusive, and love without power is emotional and anemic. Power at its best is love to enforce the demands of justice. , and justice at its best is the power to correct what is against love. "

3. Learn how to solve the related difficulties.

Stay connected and don't be defensive and curious. Kindly accept that you are human and you will make mistakes. Be less ashamed or defensive about mistakes. Focus more on analysis and repair.

4. Cultivate a variety of roles up and down.

Experiencing the two ends of dynamic power can help you maintain a noticeable sense of power and shade. It can be difficult to remember that the power of your role is an added strength. It is not the equivalent of your personal power. You can take it and do it consciously. This will help prevent burnout and help you stay connected to your physical empathy when you use the power of your role. But remember that others around you can continue to attach you to the power of your role, even when you are in a casual non-professional environment and not in your role!

5. Be a positive force.

Be wary of people who use their power wisely and well. Recognize them. Celebrate them. Study them. There are so many righteous users of power already. Give them a positive approval stamp.

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